In the first blogpost on this topic, we covered some ideas for how to start some self-care.
In today’s post, we will be touching on the fact that you’re worth it! Its worth spending time and resources on self-care. You deserve to focus on your own needs.
In fact, it’s good for those you love when you take care of yourself. You truly can’t fill another’s cup if your own is empty. So, I’d like to take this opportunity to emphasise why its worth caring for yourself, and encourage you to do so in every area of your life.
Mental health is recognised as extremely important during this COVID-19 situation. The Australian Government is also spending $74 million over 2019-20 and 2020-21 on mental health services (1).
First and foremost, you must understand that taking time to care for yourself is not selfish in any way. Your needs are just as important as the needs of others. If you do not feel like this, overcoming this mindset is essential to allowing yourself to adequately meet your own needs. Care isn’t a zero-sum concept. When you care for yourself, it doesn’t have to mean you don’t care about others.
Self-care isn’t a luxury; it’s a necessity. It really is like the airplane air mask instructions. You have to ensure you can breathe before you can help those around you. If you’re tired, rundown and overwhelmed all the time, you absolutely cannot give your best self to others. You also can’t offer yourself the very best. Remember that self-care isn’t selfish.
Take a Time Out
Sometimes just a little bit of alone time is all you need to feel rejuvenated. So why not give yourself a time out? Lock yourself in your room with a nice cup of tea. Listen to some quiet music. Just sit still and think for a bit. It’s a luxury we all can afford.
Even if you don’t consider yourself a writer, journaling can be a very therapeutic activity. Jotting down what you’re grateful for has been proven to be beneficial to well-being. It can also be energizing to simply do a brain dump in which you write down all the things that are floating around in your head. Jotting down dreams for the future might inspire and motivate you to take action. Give it a try.
You’re Worth Spending Time On – All The Time
We often feel pressured to be productive all the time. Being busy is a sign of worth and accomplishment. However, it really doesn’t have to be that way. Just kicking back and doing nothing is important to recharging our batteries. Let yourself have some down time to do something frivolous like binge on your favorite Netflix show, take a nap or just sit and pet your cat. You deserve it.
It Sets a Good Example
If you’re a parent, investing in self-care is not only good for you, it sets a good example for your kids. Even if you don’t have children, taking the time to care for yourself might be inspiring or motivational for those around you. In order for a stigma to end, it has to be normalized. When more of us let the world around us know why self-care matters, they may begin to change their minds about the concept, as well.
It Demands Respect
It also sets a precedent for how you expect others to treat you. When you demonstrate that you value yourself and that you find worth investing time in yourself, they will respond in kind. Learning to say no and set boundaries is good for your relationships. It teaches others how you expect to be treated and makes it clear that you see yourself as a priority. There’s no reason to feel guilty for that.
Society can send mixed messages – “take care of others”, “don’t be selfish” – and these may have been internalised. With practice, you can come to see the benefits of self-care!
If you would like some help with improving work performance and confidence, or simply wish to find out more information, please phone 0403 932311 or email me (Lisa) on firstname.lastname@example.org. I will do my best to answer any of your questions. All with no obligation.
- Australian Government Department of Health. (2020). Fact sheet – Coronavirus (COVID-19) National Health Plan. https://www.health.gov.au/sites/default/files/documents/2020/03/covid-19-national-health-plan-supporting-the-mental-health-of-australians-through-the-coronavirus-pandemic.pdf
- Barth, F.D. (2019). Self-Care Is Important: Why Is It So Hard to Practice? Psychology Today. https://www.psychologytoday.com/au/blog/the-couch/201905/self-care-is-important-why-is-it-so-hard-practice
- Nazish, N. (2017). Practicing Self-Care Is Important: 10 Easy Habits To Get You Started. Forbes.com. https://www.forbes.com/sites/payout/2017/09/19/practicing-self-care-is-important-10-easy-habits-to-get-you-started/#5526a6b9283a
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Sunset Coast Hypnotherapy
Perth, Western Australia